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Top Dating Do’s and Don’ts for Virtuous Young Men & Women

Hello Lovely Guys & Girls,

This post is dedicated to all of you who are dating someone, in relationships (talking) or seeking a relationship. We always give tips to the young women on how to date virtuously but we often leave out the young men.  This is post for EVERYONE that is single or in some stage of a dating relationship.  I know it is not easy trying to navigate the dating world for a spirit filled young adult but here are some basic helps that will guide you through this season of your life.  They are not in any particular order but if you just think about these simple ideas and ask the Lord for wisdom and prudence, it can make a world of difference.

  1. DON’T  neglect your relationship with the Lord because you are seeking a “bae”, “mate”, “special friend” , etc.
  2. DO  have a strong prayer life and strong relationship with the Lord, this allows you to be content and satisfied with yourself
  3. DON’T come on too strong! Watch yourself for behaviors that could be construed as needy, desperate, unstable, or otherwise undesirable
  4. DO respect the natural progression of intimacy. Telling a someone you like or potential mate how much you really, really like them adds a lot of unnecessary pressure! Instead, gradually reveal your inner thoughts, feelings, and personal story starting with light and casual conversation then progressing to deeper, more intimate self-disclosures.
  5. DON’T rush the process! Take your time and really get to know one another and enjoy each other’s company without doing too much too soon too quick.
  6. DO take your time and allow the traditional dating rules to apply.  It is okay for the guy to have to ask to date the young lady. Why should it be an assumption? It is okay for the guy to pay for dinner, open the car door and treat you like a lady.
  7. DON’T change who you are in an effort to please ANYONE
  8. DO be strong enough to speak up for yourself if you see or experience things in the relationship that make you uncomfortable
  9. DON’T be afraid to set boundaries, you don’t have to compromise in order to please anyone. Don’t compromise your self-worth because you are afraid of losing that person.
  10. DO believe in your own worth and value your own reputation as a chaste young adult and protect your good name. REMEMBER – NO means NO.
  11. DON’T go into hotel rooms, apartments, homes or any dwelling places alone together! (Especially at night)
  12. DO practice group dating. Group dating is safer and should comprise a the largest part of your activities. ( Although this may vary as couples get older)
  13. DON’T be out late until 2 and 3 am!  A virtuous young person should not be coming home from a date at 3 and 4 in the morning.
  14. DO make wise choices regarding your time and if it looks like it is getting too late, make arrangements where you are not alone with your significant other
  15. DON’T lie down by your boyfriend/girlfriend or on top of them in any situation! This creates room for lustful feelings and opens the door for intimacy that should be reserved for marriage.
  16. DO remember that your body is the temple of the holy spirit and be watchful of situations that can lead to moral transgressions
  17. DO dress modestly and remember that modesty is displayed not only in dress but in actions and words.  Modest does not mean Frumpy! You should always strive to look your best and adorn yourself in appropriate clothing.
  18. DO seek the counsel and wisdom of parents, elders in the church and those that are examples of good, healthy spirit filled relationships.
  19. Do enjoy the process – this should be a fun time in your life where you are enjoying the each other not stressing out and having relationship “issues”
  20. Do keep honesty as an important part of any relationship if you don’t like the person – be honest upfront and do not continue actions that the other person may construe as you “leading them on”

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2 Comment

  1. This was good information. I am single and would like to date. I see some useful tips that I could have used in my previous relationship. I don’t want to compromise myself in any way with being a Christian woman who desires a relationship someday. I learn from these words of advice to set boundaries and keep yourself ladylike at all times.

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