Change can be difficult for many people but it is an inevitable part of life. The reality is that change happens, sometimes good, sometimes bad but things change and that is a fact of life. It is the way that God intended. He created seasons for a reason, a change has to happen for growth to occur. I think the major problem is that we do not respond well to change or as I like to call them – Transitions.
It is much easier to live in a world where things do not change. We are comfortable, we love the familiarity of our lives, we know what to expect and how to deal with all the “normal’ things that occur on a regular basis. Who doesn’t like being comfortable? But, WHOA………..when a major life change occurs what do we do? How do we respond? How do process this? Most importantly, how do we move forward?
These are questions that I have had to ask myself recently. I have encountered quite a bit of change personally, professionally and socially. Some good and some bad. Just like Hurricane Harvey came and brought flood waters through many regions in the US, a similar storm came through my church and it brought a lot of change, swift transitions and not to mention damaging floods! Friends that I had known for over 20 years became distant and hostile. We worked alongside each other in the ministry, we cried together, we rejoiced together, we experienced many of life’s transitions together and within a moment it was all gone! Swept away by misperception, anger, frustration, and misunderstanding.
CHANGE! So what do I do now? I am learning to wait on the Lord, but while I am waiting I have to accept the change and learn to move forward. I am learning to be patient, not allow anger and resentment to fill my heart. I am asking the Lord to help me to be compassionate and full of mercy.
Another example of a change I encountered was in the transition of my oldest daughter from a high school student to a college student, who now lives away from home. Now, don’t get me wrong, I was fully aware that this change was coming. I just thought I was prepared but not really! lol…….
I did not anticipate how empty the house would be without her in the house. I did not anticipate feelings of guilt when my husband and I would go out with our 9-year old. It felt odd like we should not be having fun without her. I didn’t want to post photos on my social media because I did not want her to feel bad about not being with us. There were so many feelings and emotions that I did not anticipate. CHANGE! I was not ready for that.
CHANGE! So what do I do now? I am learning to wait on the Lord, but while I am waiting I have to accept the change and learn to move forward. Does moving forward mean that I am forgetting my darling first-born child? NO! Of course not. It means that I am growing from this change. How am I growing? I am using this as an opportunity to learn how to develop a new relationship with my daughter. Accepting her new role as a young woman who lives away from home but still needs her mother. I am learning to treat her with respect as a young woman and asking God for wisdom on how to navigate our new relationship.
My lovely friends use Pslams 62 as a reference scripture and let your soul wait upon God because from him comes your salvation. (Pslams 62:1)