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Coffee Chat- Living Beyond Our Fears


Hello Lovelies,

Our coffee chat today is about our fears, insecurities and all the things that keep us bound. That photo above  is inscribed with a quote by Marianne Williamson that was brought to our attention by  Lawrence Fishburn and KeKe Palmer in the movie – “Akeelah and the Bee”.  It is such a powerful and truthful saying because it so strongly embodies some of the of the apprehensions and doubts that hold us back from truly being successful.

When I launched my non-profit coupled with blogging and my website several months ago, I started to receive a lot of positive feedback from friends who said that they were motivated and inspired by what I was doing.  So, true to my motto of being supportive and encouraging I started spending time consulting with my friends on various ideas and ventures that they had been pondering for a while.  In many of these conversations, I realized that there was one consistent phrase that kept popping up – “I am so scared”, ” I am so afraid”, ” I would but………I am kinda nervous”.  Time after time, from one individual to another the same theme kept surfacing and it was the issue of “FEAR”.

Thinking of Marianne Williamson’s quote, I asked one of my friends “What is your biggest fear?” She gave me a wide range of different partial answers but I kept coming back to the same question – “What is your biggest fear?” And when it came down to it, her biggest fear was not that she would fail, but what if she were to succeed and her success would take her time away from her children and her work in the ministry.  It was then that I had an “aha” moment.

We all generally have some insecurities that tend to handicap us from time to time but when it comes to the real basis of our fear – it is the idea that our success may cause our lives to change in a way that we are not comfortable with. And as a result, we become that shrinking violet and we won’t do our best. We won’t give our 100% effort.  I have given this much thought and beloved friends, I do not think that is a scriptural ideal at all.


I don’t believe that the Lord would give us his spirit for us not to be the best in everything that we do.  As I read and study the book of Daniel, I use the first chapter as the basis for the motto of our Youth and Young Adult Department in our Church Organization.  “And in all matters of wisdom and understanding, that the king enquired of them, he found them ten times better than all the magicians and astrologers that were in his realm” (Daniel 1:20)  This verse tells me that as spirit filled believers we are supposed to be TEN TIMES BETTER. So, where does this idea of fear and becoming a shrinking violet come from?  Certainly not the Lord!

The bible also says that the Lord has not given us the spirit of fear ( I Timothy 2:7) so why then do we still fear?  We are supposed to be strong and courageous and by his spirit we can be TEN TIMES BETTER. 


I want to encourage you to stop living in fear of what you can accomplish, go forth and be as great as you can be!  Don’t have a mediocre mind. Be great in your ministry! Be great in your business!  Be great in all you do and let the world see the Glory of the Lord that is upon your life so that they may want the same blessings that you have achieved which only comes through being a child of God.


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  1. This is the 2nd time I’ve heard a woman of God I greatly respect speak to this issue I’ve been grappling with_stalled by ‘fear of success.’ You happened to be in Philly when Dr Lucky told us not to be afraid to ask God,& dispel my fears that my success would pull me away from the Lord. Thank you for the reassurance.

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